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Monday, March 25, 2013

The Dangers of Comparison

As many of you know, I am a retired speech therapist with 35 years of experience, but you may not know I also hold a diploma in Interior Design. That is why I follow decorating blogs in addition to speech bloggers  One of my favorite bloggers of quick and inexpensive decorating ideas is "Debbie" over at Debbiedoo's.  One of her recent posts really struck a cord with me as a Speech Therapist.  She wrote about not letting comparison steal our JOY.  I knew I had to blog about it because it applies to all of us regardless of our professions.

Debbie's words of, "Don't let comparisons steal your JOY" are very powerful.  Do you compare yourself to other SLPs?  Your therapy? Your Blog? The TpT materials you create? The apps you author? Your knowledge? (Yea, I wanted to emphasize that one.)  It is so easy to do as we interact on Twitter, Facebook, etc. We talk to so many people who are doing such amazing things and then we start comparing. Even with all my years of experience and my accomplishments, I can start feeling very inferior when I interact with all you SLPs out there.  I have to guard against it because it leaves me feeling like I know nothing and what little I do know is so outdated!  I have thought about just gracefully bowing out and fully retiring many many times.  Debbie's blog was the attitude adjustment I needed.

Debbie's blog prompted me to ask some important questions regarding why I blog and why I am creating Speech materials for TpT.  So I asked myself:

  • Do you love what you are doing?
  • Do you love to share?
  • Do you want to help other younger SLPs learn the tricks of the trade you aren't taught in college?
  • Do you want to help make their day just a little easier?

Since I answered YES to those questions I decided I'll keep on doing what I'm doing because it brings me JOY.  I also decided that I need to stop comparing myself to all of you who are better in your skills, or have more followers, or sell more products. My JOY doesn't come from accolades, or recognition, but from my own personal self gratification of helping others.

Beyond all that my greatest JOY has been the friendships I have made through Perkilou (yahoo groups), Facebook, and Twitter.  Especially those SLPeeps who love me as your SLPmother!

Perhaps you are feeling a little discouraged in your work, your placement or with your blog or the sales of your apps/materials, if so then ask yourself these simple questions and stop comparing yourself with others.  Don't let comparison steal your joy!

Debbiedoo's Blogging and Blabbing

Debbie offers this free 8x11 printable on her blog. HERE Please go there to download it today.  You might just want to follow her blog, too!


  1. Replies
    1. My sincerest thanks to you Debbie! Little did you know you would be impacting so many lives with that small post!

  2. Oh Dean! I look up to you and often realize I'm comparing myself to you! Your wealth of information, tips, tricks, and amazing ability to create fun therapy materials - I'm deeply envious of. I aspire to be as good as you...I'm glad you're not "retiring" completely...The #SLPeeps need you far too much to let that happen :)

  3. Thanks so much for the reminder! I am a new SLP, and I often find myself comparing my skills, creativity, knowledge, etc to other SLP's (both new and experienced) and find myself lacking. I have often asked myself if I'm good enough to do what I do, so I needed this reminder. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Great message! And timely...I find myself comparing ALL THE TIME, and it is a joy stealer. Thanks for the reminder.

  5. I definitely needed to hear this message! Thank you for posting. I follow on twitter and find myself in awe of your knowledge. Our profession is a 'learn everyday' profession. Hopefully after 35 years of experience I'll have a wealth of knowledge too! I agree with you though that we are lucky to have access to such great resources through social media!

    Schoolhouse Talk!

    1. You are too kind in your remarks. Haha, most days I feel like such a goober!

  6. It's so easy to fall into the comparison trap! This is such a relevant and inspiring post, you are right, there will always be someone "better" but the important thing is that YOU find joy in what you are doing. Glad to hear that you will keep on keepin' on!

  7. What a great post, Dean! Thanks for those wise words!

  8. Thank you for this! So often I read posts about "I hit my goal!" on TPT and begin feeling guilty because my attitude is much more "This is so lovely and fun..let's see where it leads." The word "goal" has always made me nervous! Thoughtful post, this. And btw, I will NOT compare it to any other post *wicked grin*. Love you, Lessia

  9. Wow! This post really hit home for me. I am constantly comparing myself to others with the blogs, products, etc. I need to remember to be happy with my accomplishments and enjoy what I'm doing. Thanks you so much!

    Third Grade Galore

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